Creating a successful Texas parenting plan can be challenging, especially when life is unpredictable. As a parent of four small children, I understand how quickly a well-thought-out plan can become obsolete. Changes such as kids getting sick, starting a new school, or parents taking on new jobs can disrupt even the best plans. The key is to use a flexible Texas parenting plan template. This template should adapt to changes while still providing a stable framework for your children’s upbringing. With clear communication and adaptability, you can create a plan that meets your family’s evolving needs.
Navigating Co-Parenting After Divorce: Challenges and Solutions
I say all this knowing that my wife and I live in the same house. Now put yourself back in your situation. You may be going through a divorce or child custody case where you and your co-parent are going to need to figure out how to create a parenting plan that can care for your child and bring you and your co-parent together as parents. This is hard on multiple levels. Not the least of which is that you may have just gone through a divorce. Now, you need to think about how to bridge the gap between you and your co-parent. Not exactly a fun idea to contemplate nor the most practical.
This is your mission if you choose to accept it. You need to consider how to create a parenting plan that serves the best interests of your child. This plan should promote their long-term growth and development. Additionally, it should bring you and your co-parent together so you can act as a cohesive parenting unit. The fact that you may have never been a cohesive parenting unit before adds another challenge to tackle.
With that said, we are going to help you learn more about a parenting plan in a Texas family law case. What are the essential pieces of information that you must know to move forward with a case? What factors or circumstances do you need to consider before settling on a specific plan? Those are some of the questions that we are going to cover in today’s blog post.
Creating a Successful Parenting Plan with Your Co-Parent
On top of that, we are not going to leave you hanging when it comes to figuring out how to get along with your co-parent well enough to create a great parenting plan for your child. If you are coming out of a divorce, then these tips may be instrumental for you. Sometimes it is just a matter of changing your outlook and perspective to become a better or at least a willing co-parent. That is something we will cover at the end of today’s blog post.
Any questions or concerns that you may have regarding the information that we have written about today can be addressed by one of the experienced family law attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan. We take nothing for granted when it comes to helping our community. Come talk to us today about your parenting plan questions. A free-of-charge consultation is just a phone call away. You may be able to help yourself more than you realize. Simple questions about the world of Texas family law or complex issues that need another person’s perspective- we can help you with both in these consultations.
The Standard Possession Order as the foundation for a parenting plan
The bedrock, the foundation for a Texas parenting plan is the Standard Possession Order, or SPO for short. The SPO is so highly thought of that it is included in the Texas Family Code. It gives parents just like you and your co-parent marching orders for how to structure their lives and that of your child. The SPO contains basic provisions for how to divide up your time between your life and your children. Let’s walk through a basic overview of the SPO so you can have a better idea about what a possession or visitation schedule may end up looking like in your situation.
Either you or your co-parent will have visitation rights to your child. This is the parent with whom your child does not live during the school week. The parent with visitation rights would have your child under an SPO on the first, third, and fifth weekends of each month during the school year from 6:00 pm on Friday until 6:00 pm on Sunday. During periods which do not involve holidays or school-designated off days the other parent would have possession. Holidays are split down the middle, essentially. Summer vacation allows the parent with visitation rights to have an extended period (usually thirty) days of consecutive days with the child. The other parent can designate one weekend during that thirty-day period to spend with the child.
Benefits of Proximity in Co-Parenting
These arrangements are based on a situation where you and your co-parent live within fifty miles of one another. I will go out on a limb and assume that almost everyone reading this blog post finds themselves in a situation where this is true. The reason why living close to your co-parent is so important is that it offers many logistical advantages. For instance, consider a situation where you and your co-parent live a long way apart. You live in Galveston and your co-parent lives in Cypress. That’s a tough drive. Technically you live in the same metropolitan area. However, anyone who lives in Houston can tell you that Cypress and Galveston are worlds apart in many ways- specifically in distance.
The closer that you and your co-parent can live from one another you give each other so much more leeway if unforeseen incidents happen which can impact your life and that of your children. Who among us hasn’t had to work late without much advance notice? If this happened on a Friday, you would be putting your co-parent in a position where she had to get the kids ready and then wait for you to come pick them up. Or she may need to hustle to prepare a meal for them when otherwise you would be the one getting them and feeding them dinner.
Minimizing Co-Parenting Challenges with Proximity
If you live close to your co-parent, you can minimize the “damage” done to your weekend with the kids and your co-parent’s schedule. However, if you live and work in Galveston and then have to drive to Cypress or any of the suburbs of Houston north of I-10, you are putting everyone in a bind. It’s not your fault, but it is what it is.
For this reason, different possession orders apply for parents who live 51-100 miles apart. Additionally, there are separate orders for parents who live 100 miles or more apart.
For parents who live more than fifty miles apart, the sort of possession plans that we just finished discussing may not work very well. If you and your co-parent find yourself in this type of situation, then you may consider having extended periods of possession where the exchanges occur less frequently. This can minimize disruption to the child’s schedule and to your own. However, if you are the parent who does not live by your child’s school this may involve a great deal more time in the car than you otherwise would have preferred. For some families, this is an ok tradeoff. However, if you or your child are balking at the idea of driving this far then you may try to move to be closer distance-wise from your co-parent so that you can potentially modify your parenting plan.
Make sure that your co-parent can get a hold of you when necessary
I would like to say that the parenting plan that you and your co-parent create in your divorce or child custody case is going to stand the test of time and never encounter any difficulties as far as making the possession schedule work. However, this would be untrue. Your family is going to run into changes that could stand to upend your parenting plan. What can you do about that?
The most practical information that I can provide you with at this time is to consider that you and your co-parent should be able to communicate with each other easily about changes in your schedule or issues that arise. This is especially true about coordinating your schedules about changes that need to occur in a parenting plan possession schedule. If you do not make it easy for your co-parent to reach you that makes life difficult for your co-parent, you, and your children.
Look through your court order and determine the requirements for making sure that your co-parent has your most up-to-date contact information. This means your telephone number, address, email address, and things of this nature. The tendency after a child custody or divorce case is to hide from your co-parent because you are just sick and tired of having to deal with them. This is understandable but is not the best approach if you want to be able to co-parent effectively. If you can help, ensure that your co-parent can reach you in an emergency or in a situation where you need help then your co-parent is more likely to reciprocate and give you the same courtesy.
How are the decision-making responsibilities divided?
So far in today’s blog post, we have been discussing issues related to possession and visitation. Now I would like to shift gears and talk more about rights and duties under a parenting plan. More specifically, I want to be able to help you create a plan on how to share the rights to make decisions for your children and the duty to care for your children in various ways. These rights and duties fall under the category of conservatorship. If you look in a sample child custody order you will find a parenting plan and conservatorship section for your review. Parents hold rights concerning their children as a team. Here is some basic information that you need to know about conservatorships concerning your children.
The default setting in a child custody situation is that parents should be named as joint managing conservators. This means that you and your co-parent would share rights and duties concerning your children in an even fashion. Some of these rights would be held independently of your co-parent, meaning that you could exercise them on your own without first consulting with your co-parent. Next, you may have some exclusive rights to your children as far as being the only parent who can make certain decisions. Finally, there are jointly held rights that you and your co-parent hold together.
Put the best interests of your children before your own
The difficulties associated with crafting a parenting plan for your children stem in large part from not being able to set aside your differences with your co-parent and do what is best for your children. In general, parents who find themselves going through a family law case are not on the best of terms with their co-parents. It could be a challenge for you and your co-parent to be able to figure out the best parenting plan for your children especially if you may have trouble with being able to work together on complex issues like we have encountered today in this blog post.
However, I think that parents can sometimes benefit from remembering that this is not a contract for you and your co-parent to use to try and get the better of the other person. Rather, this is a plan that you and your co-parent need to be able to use to bring about the best possible parenting environment for your children. Negotiating the complex issues associated with a child custody and divorce case can frequently put you in the mindset of having to “win” on these issues.
Creating a parenting plan that stands to be in the best interest of your children is not about winning or losing. Rather, it’s about setting up guardrails and conditions that give your child the best possible opportunity to flourish. How you define success when creating a parenting plan is up to you and your co-parent. However, if you can honestly say that you set aside your differences and did what was best for your children in negotiating this parenting plan then the two of you will be off to a good start.
Tips on how to effectively co-parent
Communication is key when it comes to co-parenting. If you and your child’s other parent can commit to always speaking to one another respectfully, you can avoid many problems that parents in your situation encounter. It is much simpler to find yourselves in a position where you can talk to your co-parent respectfully. This approach eliminates the need to scratch and claw just to get a word in during a conversation.
While you may not always want to hear what the other person is saying, you cannot have a conversation without actively listening and considering their perspective. Choosing to shut down the lines of communication means you are essentially choosing to shut down the ability to co-parent.
Anticipating and Addressing Changes in Your Parenting Plan
As covered in this blog post, there will come a time when your parenting plan needs to be adjusted for various reasons. Usually, if you follow our first tip and keep the lines of communication open between you and your co-parent, you will have already solved many issues that can arise when schedules conflict or logistical problems occur.
To finish off this particular tidbit of wisdom, I want to emphasize the importance of approaching these scenarios with an open mind. The less inflexible you are when it comes to adjusting your plans, the better off you, your children, and your co-parent will be. You may even anticipate certain challenges before they arise, allowing you to prepare for them more effectively in the future.
The last point we will mention in today’s blog post is that some issues may require more work than others to find a solution. In those situations, it is advisable to work with an experienced family law attorney. This attorney should understand the intricacies of a parenting plan and know how to negotiate with your co-parent while keeping the primary focus on your children.
Final thoughts
In conclusion, a well-crafted Texas parenting plan template is essential for ensuring that your children’s needs are met, even as life evolves. By incorporating flexibility and clear communication into your plan, you can create a sustainable arrangement that adapts to changes in your family’s circumstances. Whether it’s dealing with new challenges or simply navigating the everyday demands of parenting, having a solid template in place provides both stability and peace of mind, allowing you to focus on what matters most—raising happy, healthy children.
Ebook
![Adobe Stock 62844981[2]](/?seraph_accel_gci=wp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F09%2FAdobeStock_628449812.jpeg&n=ZoLGz1rB9EpXzbEKYFZug)
If you want to know more about what you can do, CLICK the button below to get your FREE E-book: “16 Steps to Help You Plan & Prepare for Your Texas Divorce”
![Divorce Wasting Assets[4]](/?seraph_accel_gci=wp-content%2Fuploads%2F2023%2F09%2FDivorce-wasting-assets4.jpeg&n=sXY6yiEXD50JDzE8l8yrtA)
If you want to know more about how to prepare, CLICK the button below to get your FREE E-book: “13 Dirty Tricks to Watch Out For in Your Texas Divorce, and How to Counter Them” Today!”
Other Related Posts
- Texas Parenting Plans 101: Building a Strong Co-Parenting Foundation for Your Child’s Future
- Creating a Co-Parenting Plan Around the 1st 3rd and 5th Weekend Schedule in 2024
- Ask Yourself: Is Including a Right of First Refusal in Your Parenting Plan the Right Thing to Do?
- Anticipate what your narcissist spouse will do concerning your Texas divorce
- Exploring the Indictment Process
- Navigating the Complexities of Divorce: Why You Need an Experienced Attorney
- What is The Divorce Rate After Therapy?
- What is The Success Rate of Marriage Counseling?
- What is The Main Goal of Marriage Counseling?
- What are The Three Forms of Discovery?
- What is Included in a Discovery?
- What Does Discovery Show in a Divorce?
- Child Support in Texas: From Guideline Levels to Ending Obligations and Everything In Between
- Safeguarding Child Witnesses
Frequently Asked Questions about Parenting Plans in Texas
Filing a parenting plan in Texas typically involves drafting a plan that outlines custody arrangements and submitting it to the court. It’s advisable to consult with an attorney for guidance through this process.
A standard parenting plan in Texas often follows the Standard Possession Order (SPO), which sets visitation schedules for non-custodial parents. It includes weekends, holidays, and extended summer periods.
A good parenting plan should prioritize the child’s best interests. It should include details on custody arrangements, visitation schedules, decision-making authority, and clear communication guidelines between co-parents.
The most common child custody arrangement in Texas is joint managing conservatorship, where both parents share decision-making responsibilities. However, physical custody arrangements may vary.
There is no specific legal age requirement for a child to have their own room in Texas. It often depends on the circumstances and what the court considers in the child’s best interests.
Terminating parental rights is a complex legal process. It’s highly recommended to consult with an attorney to navigate this process properly, as it can have serious legal and financial implications.
In Texas, an unstable parent may be someone who poses a risk to the child’s safety or well-being due to issues such as substance abuse, neglect, or a history of violent behavior. Courts assess these factors when making custody decisions.
While 50-50 custody arrangements are possible in Texas, custody decisions are based on the child’s best interests. The court considers various factors, and both parents have the opportunity to present their case.
Child support in 50-50 custody arrangements in Texas can still be required, depending on the income of each parent and other relevant factors. It’s determined on a case-by-case basis.
Bryan Fagan, a native of Atascocita, Texas, is a dedicated family law attorney inspired by John Grisham’s “The Pelican Brief.” He is the first lawyer in his family, which includes two adopted brothers. Bryan’s commitment to family is personal and professional; he cared for his grandmother with Alzheimer’s while completing his degree and attended the South Texas College of Law at night.
Married with three children, Bryan’s personal experiences enrich his understanding of family dynamics, which is central to his legal practice. He specializes in family law, offering innovative and efficient legal services. A certified member of the College of the State Bar of Texas, Bryan is part of an elite group of legal professionals committed to ongoing education and high-level expertise.
His legal practice covers divorce, custody disputes, property disputes, adoption, paternity, and mediation. Bryan is also experienced in drafting marital property agreements. He leads a team dedicated to complex family law cases and protecting families from false CPS allegations.
Based in Houston, Bryan is active in the Houston Family Law Sector of the Houston Bar Association and various family law groups in Texas. His deep understanding of family values and his professional dedication make him a compassionate advocate for families navigating Texas family law.
