Divorcing After Age 50 in Texas: What it Can Mean for You and Your Spouse

Lately, we’ve been seeing a rise in what’s known as “gray divorce,” where couples over the age of fifty are choosing to end their marriages. If you’re in this age group, you probably know that divorce can be a particularly tough experience, filled with emotional ups and downs. It’s a significant life change, and navigating it can feel overwhelming, especially when you’ve built so much together over the years. Whether it’s sorting through long-held assets or considering retirement plans, it’s important to understand the unique challenges that come with gray divorces. Having the right support and resources can make all the difference as you move forward into this new chapter of life.

During a life stage where they had previously contemplated settling in and preparing for a post-retirement reward after years of working, a separating couple must now contemplate how to best prepare themselves for some hardships.

Divorce Considerations

Some of the considerations that divorcing couples over the age of 50 include:

1. What valuable or sentimental assets should they keep such as the family home.
2. The availability of retirement benefits or social security.
3. How should retirement accounts be divided.
4. Spousal Support & Alimony
5. Debts
6. Health Insurance
7. Updating or obtaining a will

Children

One difference in a gray divorce is that spouses generally do not have to worry about child custody and child support. However, there may be a greater focus on alimony and a just and right division of property.

In many cases, there is one spouse who earns less and is very financially dependent on another spouse’s income. In these cases, they will be facing a major lifestyle adjustment which often includes finding employment.

Property and Assets

It is the experience of the attorneys at the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC that people, unfortunately, do not typically have all that much money saved even by the time they are older than fifty years of age.

This is a troubling issue that only makes it more important to protect what a person does have and ensure what they receive (in terms of property and assets) in a divorce is fair and equitable.

The House

Starting with a basic necessity like a house- if the house a person shares with their spouse is not paid off then the parties have a decision to make. Whether one spouse or the other is able to refinance a mortgage into their name only is a primary factor in deciding who may remain in the house and who will need to find another place to lay their head at night. That’s not to mention anything about the emotional attachment that usually exists between a longtime home and its occupants.

Retirement

Spouses, like other forms of community property, have an entitlement to a fifty percent share of each other’s retirement account. This includes all funds contributed, as well as any losses and gains incurred, during the marriage. These elements are key during settlement negotiations. Attorneys must be vigilant in determining the contents of a person’s retirement account at the time of marriage since any contributions made prior to marriage remain the separate property of the spouse who owns the account.

For many of our clients over 50, outside of the family home retirement accounts may be their most significant asset. That makes it very important these accounts are valued accurately. A retirement account’s true value may be less than their balance.

This is because many retirement accounts are taxed upon withdrawal, making the accounts value only about 65% of what the statement says. Once this is realized this may change how a property division should be negotiated. If one spouse gets the house and the other a the retirement account it may look even on paper when in reality it is very different.

Social Security

We are frequently asked about the effect of social security benefits in divorces. Social security benefits are not a divisible asset upon divorce. However, like other separate property assets social security benefits can be considered when dividing up community property assets in a divorce.

Spousal Support & Alimony

Spousal support is often an important issue in gray divorces. This is generally because one spouse has been out of the workforce for a number of years. This is a fact-dependent issue where it will a court will consider:

1. In most cases, the party asking for post-divorce spousal support will be required to have been married to you for at least 10 years or longer
2. The requesting party in most cases needs to demonstrate they are unable to earn sufficient income to meet their minimal needs
3. The requesting party must demonstrate they have made a diligent effort to earn sufficient income or develop skills to do so

Other reasons a spouse can ask for post-divorce spousal support include:

1. the other spouse has committed family violence; or
2. the requesting spouse has an incapacitating disability; or
3. a child of the marriage (of any age) has a physical or mental disability that prevents the spouse who cares for and supervises the child from earning sufficient income

Debts

The debts of post-fifty couples are very relevant in considering the full picture in a divorce. Debts don’t just mean credit cards, it can also mean mortgage debt and car note(s).

As mentioned previously if both spouse’s names appear on a note then the home or vehicle will need to be:

1. refinanced into one spouse’s name or
2. sold.

For the spouse who is getting their name off the debt-ridden item, it’s all about minimizing liability. That person should not be responsible for the failure to make a payment on time or for depreciation in the item’s value. There are specific legal mechanisms in place to ensure that this can occur and having an experienced family law attorney in your corner can help tremendously.

Health Insurance

This can be one of the most difficult problems that divorcing spouses face between the ages of 55-65 years old. If both spouses work and have separate health insurance policies, there may not be a problem.

However, if a spouse is self-employed or unemployed this could be a difficult issue. COBRA insurance is generally available through your former spouse’s employer for 36 months after a divorce.

This may be an option but it is often an expensive option. I generally bring up health insurance in our first consult and encourage my clients to start thinking about looking into their individual health insurance options policy early in the divorce process.

Wills and Other Important Paperwork

Finally, clients going through a divorce may want to consider updating or getting a will. You should also update all the important legal paperwork that was established during your marriage. This includes bank accounts and beneficiary designations.

If this is not done it is very likely with their current estate plan or lack of one their spouse will receive the majority of the remaining marital estate.

The attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC represent persons of all ages as they work through a divorce. While it is not a pleasant or fun process, it is vitally important to you and your life moving forward. Contact our office today to learn more about how our office can help you achieve a successful golden age divorce.

Conclusion

Gray divorces present a unique set of challenges for couples over fifty, often intertwining emotional, financial, and practical complexities. As these individuals navigate the difficult terrain of ending a long-term marriage, it’s crucial to approach the situation with care and understanding. By seeking support—whether through legal advice, counseling, or community resources—those experiencing a gray divorce can empower themselves to make informed decisions and embrace this new chapter of life with confidence. Ultimately, recognizing that it’s never too late to start anew can be a powerful step toward healing and rediscovering personal fulfillment.

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Bryan Joseph Fagan( Attorney )

Bryan Fagan, a native of Atascocita, Texas, is a dedicated family law attorney inspired by John Grisham’s “The Pelican Brief.” He is the first lawyer in his family, which includes two adopted brothers. Bryan’s commitment to family is personal and professional; he cared for his grandmother with Alzheimer’s while completing his degree and attended the South Texas College of Law at night.

Married with three children, Bryan’s personal experiences enrich his understanding of family dynamics, which is central to his legal practice. He specializes in family law, offering innovative and efficient legal services. A certified member of the College of the State Bar of Texas, Bryan is part of an elite group of legal professionals committed to ongoing education and high-level expertise.

His legal practice covers divorce, custody disputes, property disputes, adoption, paternity, and mediation. Bryan is also experienced in drafting marital property agreements. He leads a team dedicated to complex family law cases and protecting families from false CPS allegations.

Based in Houston, Bryan is active in the Houston Family Law Sector of the Houston Bar Association and various family law groups in Texas. His deep understanding of family values and his professional dedication make him a compassionate advocate for families navigating Texas family law.